relationships such as marriage. He says that he doesnt want them cause they dont have respect for themselves. If he wants a second wife just because he wants another to have sex, if we accept their nature, so he is going to keep loving us. Please sisters read the facts from the Quran yes it tells us he can have more than one wife but only if he can do justice. Imaan will give you the strength you need to overcome the problems in your life and deal with things you are unhappy with. People want things their way with other people so will only use that part of Islam that suits them. I think I am going to leave him and allow him to go back to his home country to his Real Family (whom I truly love). but maybe you need to coax the poor little guy back into life, remember that little number he used to drive you crazy about all those years ago. Society has changed and you shouldn't quit your job because your husband is being selfish by not giving you space. Goes both ways really. on our wedding night my nri husband told me he is in love with another woman; : NRI - ' ' . 2. Mohammad made the rules for his time for some purpose. A father should be responsible for the life of his children even though he has separated from the mother. This article is a joke. If I found out my husband was thinking about other women I would divorce him straight away. He loses his job and the money gets tight. The Muslim should not pray istikhaarah about She may declare that she loves him, but without her respect, he will quickly fall out of love with her. Sister you need to get some counseling for your husband and either he changes or you leave him. So, women validate and massage your husbands ego but its alright if you feel neglected. It would be something very difficult to come to terms with, I agree but this life is a test and through the difficulties we encounter and how we deal with them will determine our station in the akhira. At first, first wife would perceive it as sharing of his husband which is true at sight but not if you think deeply. Shouldnt man and wife be friends, ask for eacothers opinion as Our Prophet(pbuh)did? Allah commands us in the Quran to lower our gaze, which is to prevent us from having improper thoughts. A woman who cannot conceive a child doesnt have to be frigid. And will control you if you fail to CONTROL youre desires. Perfect for me, but he wants me to be his second wife. Therefore not expecting her if she was unwell. Thank you. 5815. This website uses cookies to improve your experience while you navigate through the website. I have to say shukran and Allah barek feek, you have saved my marriage. Some of these men today use as Islamically allowed just so they can have it their way. We are all human and built that way. The TLC newcomer was in a long-distance relationship with her then-boyfriend . Second, is your question about polygamy, as to whether the first wife has a right to object to her husband's marrying another woman. So many women (same goes for men) just take for granted that their husband knows how she feels for him and dont ever say anything. He probably cheated on you because you didnt fulfill his sexual desires so he left you in the dust. In no event shall AboutIslam, its counselors or employees be held liable for any damages that may arise from your decision in the use of our services. However a woman is not the same level as the man as shes required to please him in whatever situation unless its a situation where she has no power to do anything about (i.e monthly periods). Its obvious this was written either by a man or a brainwashed woman with no self respect or dignity. Polygyny is permitted in Judaism. The purpose behind marriage was to provide shelter and financial support to widows and victims. A week after he came back, he told me that he had got married in Egypt. Like it or not, some men are polygamous in nature (if not all) and we have to deal with that. and trial for her, and if she bears that with patience she will have the While it is completely understandable that you are shocked and hurt, provided the situation, you may still have the chance to improve your family life with him in South Africa and keep it separate from his parents and wife in Egypt. fallen into a trap of the shaytaan, because he has made you attractive to Here are the hadith that explain this, O youth, who among you who have baah then should he marry (Narrated by al-Bukhari), 9. its haram to do that. ITS THE HOLY QURAN SO ITS ALLAH WORDS THAT WE R TO OBEY CLEARLY ALLAH KNOWNS ALL THINGS TO B TRUE . I TOO WAS NOT FEELING THAT AT ALL BUT UPON FARTHER STUDING AND PRACTICING AL- ISLAM FOLLOWING THE QURAN WE HAVE TO ACCEPT THIS PONIT BLANK, excellent article for the wives of all married men, and true, This is a good advise for sisters in Islam and also teaches brothers little on how to treat their wife in a right way, Assalaam all When a husband and wife take their vows they are declaring to Love, Honour & Respect till death do us part and if you truly have that you cannot go wrong IA. And about this respect issue, nothing comes by itself. Some points made in this article are good,but that does not justify being sexist!All men think about having another wife? However, if the man wants to marry after the second, Islam limits in it. Nice. Shall I divorce him. If I would get to know about a special reward, things would be easier to accept. Dora, I understand that it seems like a contradiction (the husband trying to make wife happy but taking another wife) but remember that this is a something a man is allowed to do in Islam. (3) Dispute over marriage between the lady and her husband. For shame! Sister when you said i will never accept this part of islam you could have come out the fold of islam!! Views : 2.If this person really loves Glad there are respectable men who actually follow the true Islam. The practice of polygyny continued till Rabbi Gershom ben Yehudah. and the wife wishes for a man with whom she can live in peace. InshaAllah we all better ourselves and our relationships. But in the end i would say it doesnt mean thats the end of life. You should speak to him and say you're tired after working. the same punishment will happen to him. She can be a friend in difficult moments and she can understand the first wife. What is Halal shall always be Halal and what Allah kareem has deemed haram shall always remain haram.what we think about on the said matter simply accounts for nothingand remember Allah kareem knows best as he created us and knows exactly what we should do and what we need to abstain from.men will always be men and I think its time we admitted that.the subcontinent especially is rife with criticism of multiple marriages and who ever indulges in that is looked upon with hatred and disgust by societywhat right does society have of doing something like this.and then we have the Persians who twist the faith and usually never marry a second woman but legalize one night stands with the doctrine of Mutta :\. His wife was to me, the woman that I could not be and I will be forever grateful for that. And the reward in the next life for encouraging your husband to the truth. Correct me if i am wrong. Good question. other wife well, she will have the reward of al-muhsineen. I agree with Kay and I am a muslim Man. If Polygamy was a social welfare for them. Now I realize how good I got it because Alhamdulillah my wife is not like most of you regurgitating your jahiliyya to an extent to commit major kufr. as far as i know most of the man have one wife. Great article, although I think number 4 needs to go. You should not even be looking at other woman mate! We are living in Saudi Arabia with my husband and three children, and expecting twins. Many of the schools of thought also require a husband to fulfill his wifes sexual needs and this is not at all ruled out by this Hadith which I think some people feel it may be. But also recognize that this will also cause damage and harm to your family. We have Your side of the story sister. When I came to know about this that girl got a girl child. Thank you thank you DR ABULU for the good work you just did in my life , my name is ALVINA i was married to my husband for two years and we were living together happily and we both love each other for this two year not until one bad evening when i came back from work late due to scares of transportation and he started queering and he said he does not trust me anymore and he can continue with this marriage anymore and he drove me away from his house unknowingly to him that i was carrying his two month old baby inside me i tried informing he but he won,t listen to me anymore i thought i will never get him back again and i loved him so much and i promise not to rest until am able to get him back to my life so i began to look for a solution and help to get him back this was because i do not want to give birth to a fatherless child so one afternoon as i was browsing on my computer i came across a testimony shared by miss Rachael from UK how she got his ex husband back with the help of Dr abulu of (abuluspiritualtemple@yahoo.com) so i decided to give him a try and to my best surprise the spell this man cast on my husband work just within two days i contacted him . I love my husband so deeply and wholeheartedly that i can never even imagine myself being attracted to another man. 5. I guess no matter how much effort you put in but this particular relationship is based on your destiny. So stop being childish and open your eyes . I have 5 years old boy child. Some things may be hard to swallow for us women, but Allah swt Created us this way, so rather empower yourself with this knowledge and understanding, than bemoan and question the way of things. First the car then the shop, then the house. "I was busy and studying. I felt contrite, I felt that because I did not give another woman a chance, a space in my life, that Allah will punish me this time around. IF you believe in Islam and Allah you will have to believe that if a woman refuses to have intercourse with her husband, then she is sinning. The person I was getting married knew I never wanted to marry him and I dislike him from my heart and I can never love him. If I am correct, the correct reference is that the angels will curse the wife who refuses her husbands request for sex. that I have to be pleased emotionally and sexually and if not, there are other men just like for them other women. Were not perfect. King Dashrat, the father of Rama, had more than one wife. Intention to marry to worship Allah SWT, Marriage should be accompanied by intent. and Allah knows best. To put him back on track, just reduce your level of love to the minimum level which is your duty, and he will do everything to get you and that extra love and care back I dont mean sex only, by Love. 5.Do you expect that trust will I agree with you 100% Kay. She lives in Senegal with her husband and his other wives. Bespectacled before it was cool, I. In the hadith of Abu Dawud below, it is narrated. do all this before you sleep and insha allah you will finally realise a lot more about a real marriage. This is just how it is, in all schools of thought in Islam. 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